一个年轻男人对我说:一年之内,他被一个女子拒绝N回,每一次的理由都是,你没有给我安全感。那男人开始以为是自己帅,或者女人缘好,为了讨好他喜欢的女子,他甚至由着她的性子让她随时检查自己的手机,但她还是离开了。因为他的一次跳槽失败,女子对他说:你总换工作,没有一份工作能稳定地干过一年,你没有职业规划,我缺乏安全感。他终于懂得什么叫“安全感”——那个女子选择了一个比她大很多的二手 A young man said to me: Within a year, he was rejected by a woman N times, every reason is that you did not give me a sense of security. The man began to think that he was handsome, or a woman is good, in order to please his favorite woman, he even made her her temper to check her cell phone at any time, but she still left. Because of his failure to quit a job, the woman said to him: You always change jobs, not a job can be a stable year, you have no career planning, I lack the sense of security. He finally knew what it was like to be “safe” - the woman chose a lot larger than her