少不更事时,对“清官难断家务事”这句人们常挂在嘴边的大俗话,没什么感觉,随着年岁的增长,对这句俗话所包含的智慧,倒是愈来愈佩服了。人家关起门后发生的事,外人哪能分辨得清其中的是非曲直。这其中有多少难言之隐,又有多少事令当事人欲说还休?因此,对他人的家务事,我是相信旁观者往往是“昏”而不是“清”的。由于有了这样的认识,每遇他人的父子相争,兄弟相斗,夫妻反目,我都告诫自己勿妄作评说。 If anything goes wrong, it does not feel that people often talk about big things like “honest government and family affairs”. As they grow older, they increasingly admire the wisdom contained in this saying. . What happens when people close their doors and how can an outsider tell them right and wrong? How many of these things are unspeakable, and how many things the parties want to say about their retirement? Therefore, I believe other people’s housework is often overlooked and not “clean”. With this understanding, I always warn myself not to make any comment on each encounter of father and son of another, fratricide, and husband and wife.