这篇文章首先展示了孩子内心对于离婚的刻板印象。在孩子的逻辑看来,不一致——吵架——离婚——没有父母。在这里,我们想“解构”这些刻板印象,从而让孩子进一步了解人与人之间、父母之间、父母与自己之间的关系,以及家庭关系的复杂性和丰富性。这也是孩子和父母共同学习的机会。看得出,这位父亲对儿子这个“消防员”充满了自豪感可是,我却有点担心! 夫妻之间关系失和,的确对孩子的成长有许多负面影响。但是,将调整夫妻关系的重任全权交由孩子掌管,婚姻关系的纽带完全维系于孩子,也非良策。许多家庭出了问题,是由于夫妻关系要靠孩子表现心理行为症状这个砝码来调节。实际上,作为每个家庭成员健康成长的环境,家中应该有比较清楚的边界:夫妻的关系应该在夫妻之间解决,不必由孩子掌管。当然,孩子与父母之间的关系也不应该转嫁 This article first shows the children’s stereotypes about divorce. In the children’s logic, inconsistency - quarrel - divorce - no parents. Here, we want to “stereotype” these “deconstruction” so that children can learn more about the relationships among people, between parents, between parents and themselves, and the complexity and richness of family relationships. This is also an opportunity for children and their parents to learn together. I can see that this father is full of pride in his son’s “firefighter.” However, I am a little worried that the loss of relationships between husband and wife does have many negative effects on children’s growth. However, the task of adjusting the marital relationship will be entrusted to the sole responsibility of the children. The link of marital relations will be completely maintained by the children and not a good policy. Many families have a problem, because the relationship between husband and wife depends on the child to express the psychological behavior of this weight to adjust. In fact, as a healthy environment for each family member, there should be a clearer border in the family: the relationship between husband and wife should be solved without the child being in charge. Of course, the relationship between children and parents should not be passed on either