中学生课余时间交些笔友,对于丰富生活、拓宽视野应该是一件好事,但是要把握尺度:一是要注意选择益友;二是不可沉溺于此;三是不要因此漠视了周围的同学和师长。对于中学生交笔友这件事,家长、老师既不应过多干涉,也不能不闻不问。孩子把自己的内心寄托于不曾谋面的朋友,这说明他(她)也许有不愿声张的心事,也许内心苦闷却无处倾诉。交笔友只是一个表面现象,追根溯源,笔者建议家长、老师认真思考一下:这些中学生与周围人是否存在着某种交流上的障碍?老师、家长能否成为他们可以信赖的朋友?面对独生子女,与孩子建立起更加有效的沟通渠道,以帮助他们更加健康地成长,是家长、老师不得不面对的问题。 When middle school students spend more time in class, it is a good thing for them to enrich their lives and expand their horizons. However, they must take measures: First, they should pay attention to selecting helpful friends; second, they must not indulge in this; Third, they should not ignore the nearby classmates and teachers. For middle school students to write penpals, parents and teachers should neither interfere too much nor ignore them. The child put his own heart on a friend who has never met. This shows that he (she) may have unwilling to express his heart, may be depressed but there is no place to talk. The pen-friendship is only a superficial phenomenon, and the authors suggest that parents and teachers think carefully: Are there obstacles in the communication between these middle school students and the people around them? Can teachers and parents become friends they can trust? Facing the only child The establishment of more effective communication channels with children to help them grow healthier is a problem that parents and teachers have to face.