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在心理容积不变的情况下,我们对一件事情正面感受越多,负面感受就会慢慢褪去。那些在父母眼里看来“根本没什么”的事情,在孩子心中却可能成为过不去的坎儿,甚至成为影响孩子一生的情绪地雷。上一次我们提到,有个孩子看到了一起小车祸,两车相撞了,妈妈和对方吵架。对于成年人来讲,这样的事情根本构不成创伤事件,但不幸的是,它在孩子心里却形成一个障碍。
In the case of the same psychological volume, the more we feel positive about one thing, the negative feelings will slowly fade away. Those things that appear to their parents to be “fundamentally nothing” can become irreversible signs in their children’s hearts and even become emotional mines that affect their children’s lives. Last time we mentioned that there was a child who saw a car accident and the two cars collided with each other and her mother quarreled with each other. For adults, such a thing is simply not a traumatic event, but unfortunately it creates an obstacle in the child’s mind.