问我与丈夫结婚已4年,生有一子,现3岁。婚后感情一直尚可,后因生活琐事,加之他移情别恋,两人关系逐渐疏远,现分居1年多。他既不尽家庭义务,也不与我协商怎么办。我想去法院起诉,与他离婚,早日解除这名存实亡的婚姻关系。可听人说,谁先提出离婚,谁就吃亏。请问,此说法成立吗?我能否先起诉离婚? I have been married to her husband for 4 years, have a son, now 3 years old. Feelings of marriage have been acceptable, after the trifles of life, coupled with his empathy, the relationship between the two gradually estranged, now separated by more than a year. He did not fulfill his family obligations nor did he negotiate with me what to do. I want to go to the court to sue, divorce him and get rid of this existent marriage as soon as possible. Audiences say whoever first divorces, who suffer. Excuse me, is this statement true? Can I sue divorce first?