在和其他成人交往的过程中,我们常有这样的体会:如果用不当的言辞批评某个人,那么这个人势必会感到自尊心受到损伤,冲突由此产生,双方之间的关系可能会遭到破坏。但是,在家庭的亲子交往中,父母则往往很少在意自己的言行对孩子自尊心的伤害,也容易轻视自己的言行给亲子关系所带来的负面影响。甚至在一些父母看来,自己从小就是在这种管教中走过来的,这不妨碍维持家庭的亲子关系。 In the process of dealing with other adults, we often have the following experience: If someone is criticized in inappropriate terms, he / she will inevitably feel self-esteemed and damaged. As a result of the conflict, the relationship between the two parties may be destroyed . However, in family parent-child interactions, parents tend to seldom care about their own words and deeds to hurt their children’s self-esteem and easily underestimate the negative impact that their words and deeds have on parent-child relationships. Even some parents seem to have come from childhood in this discipline, which does not prevent the maintenance of family parentage.