一位邻居的儿子随着年龄的增长对父母的严格要求.非但不理解.反而与父母产生了一种强烈的反抗心理。邻居多次询问这样一个问题:为什么膝下的“小皇帝”越长越大.为他成才投入的财力愈来愈多.对父母却愈来愈不知趣。为什么用钱财“喂”起来的孩子却“喂”不出感情.而布衣百姓的子女长大后对父母却有倾不完的爱?对邻居提出的这一个个问号.笔者很难一下子拉直。 “父母之心.人皆有之”。疼爱子女,是一般父母都能做到的事。但由于爱的含义不同.爱的内容千差万别.到头来往往会产生不同的结果。西方人强调自由和独立.父母把子女抚养到成年就算完成义务.故子女对父母的感情十分淡薄;但国人对此则大相径庭。时下大多数父母对子女往往“一包到底”.君不见.现实生活中.随着独生子女的增多.做父母的对子女大都把“物质”上的关心做为第一要义.吃.广告里有啥.孩子吃啥;穿.商店里卖啥.子女穿啥;用.孩子要啥.父母买啥;玩.别人有啥.自己家不缺啥;学.社会上提倡啥,孩子就能去学啥。一些父母似乎这样认为.只有对子女不断的“物质储蓄”.子女长大后就能成才.就能够对父母的爱有所回报。然而.事情并非那样 A neighbor’s son’s strict demands on parents as he grew older, not only did not understand it, but had a strong reactionary psychology with his parents. The neighbors repeatedly asked such a question: Why the “little emperors” under their knees grow bigger and bigger, and more and more financial resources have been devoted to his success, but their parents are increasingly unaware of it. Why do children who use “money” to “feed” have “no” feelings, while commoner’s children grow up and have endless affections for their parents? This is a question mark for neighbors. straight. “Heart of parents. Everyone has.” Love children, are generally parents can do. But because of the different meanings of love, the content of love varies widely, and often leads to different outcomes in the long run. Westerners emphasize freedom and independence, and parents take their children to adulthood to fulfill their obligations, so their children’s feelings of parents are very weak; but people are quite different from this. Nowadays, most parents often give their children “a pack of the end.” In real life, with the increase of only-child children, parents and children mostly regard “material” care as their first priority. What is the child to eat what; wear. What to sell in the store. Children wear what; with. Children to what. Parents buy what; play. What others have. To learn what. Some parents seem to think so, and only if their children continue to be “material savings.” When children grow up and succeed, they will be able to pay their parents love. However, this is not the case