许多人都可能有过这样的体验:人若长期接触同一事物或从事同一工作,就会产生厌倦感。即使是一幅很美的画,一首很动听的乐曲,看久了,听久了,也会觉得索然无味。在婚姻生活中同样存在着这种心理,叫“爱情厌倦”心理。尤其是中年人,其婚姻在经过新婚的浪漫和青年时期的激情,特别是有了儿女之后,情爱部分转移,夫妻性生活逐渐趋于平淡,对这种毫无变化的婚姻生活,也就容易产生厌倦,进而发生摩擦以至矛盾激化,或产生婚外性行为,或者生出离婚后再寻找一位满意的伴侣结婚的愿望。可惜好景不长,新鲜劲一过,厌倦感又再度出现,结果是重蹈覆辙,再次走进怪圈,不得解脱。爱情厌倦心理是人类普遍具有的正常心理。美国神经生理学家赫勃提出,当人们感觉某一物体时,大脑中的某一细胞簇就会立即兴奋起来,但当某一物体的作用长期存在时,记录这物体的那条神经链就会出现疲劳。这样,相应神经联系链的疲劳,就会导致人们对某一现象、物体、人和自己配偶情感态度的周期性厌倦。也就是说,夫妻婚姻生活中的厌倦心理,是有其生理因素的,并不全都是道德败坏造成的。 Many people may have experienced this experience of tiredness if they are exposed to the same thing for long periods of time or engaged in the same work. Even a beautiful picture, a very nice piece of music, look for a long time, listening for a long time, will feel boring. In the same marital life this kind of psychology, called “love bored ” psychology. Especially middle-aged people, their marriage after the marriage of romance and youth passion, especially with children, love part of the transfer, marital sex life tends to be flat, for this kind of immutable marriage, also Prone to boredom, friction and even intensification of conflicts, or extramarital sex, or the desire to marry a satisfactory partner after divorce. Unfortunately, good prospects are not long, fresh fresh one, tired again appear again, the result is to repeat the same mistakes, once again into the cycle, may not be free. Love is boring mental general human normal psychology. American neurophysiologist Robert Hubble proposed that when people feel an object, a certain cluster of cells in the brain will be excited immediately. However, when the effect of an object exists for a long time, the nerve chain that records this object will be Appear tired. In this way, the fatigue of the corresponding neural linkages will lead to the periodic boredom of people’s attitudes toward emotions, objects, people and their spouses. In other words, the boredom in the marital life of husband and wife has its own physiological factors, and not all are caused by moral corruption.