“建立一种别人给不了,只有你能给他的习惯。”就像《红楼梦》里林黛玉一天不给贾宝玉两句硬话,他就难受;这样的硬话,换个人说,却又立刻叫他生厌。这种习惯,更多情况下是慢慢培养起来的生活小情趣,好比古代才子佳人间,下下棋、弹弹琴、对个对联,感情就在这眉来眼去间慢慢积累,变成默契,让他和你在一起随时随地觉得放松,开心。“男人需要磨砺他的‘磨刀石’,但不会爱上它。”在中国传统伦理中,一直按照旺夫理论来教育女人,努力把女人培养成男人的磨刀石,在他不成功的时候磨砺 “Create a kind of other people can not give, only you can give him the habit. ” Like “Dream of Red Mansions” Lily Daiyu did not give Jia Baoyu two hard words, he would feel uncomfortable; such hard words, for others to say, but He was immediately annoyed. This habit, in more cases, is slowly cultivating a life of little interest, such as the ancient genius, play chess, play the piano, a pair of couplets, feelings in this eyebrows slowly accumulate into a tacit understanding, let He and you feel relaxed and happy anytime, anywhere. “Men need to sharpen his sharpening stone, but they will not fall in love with it.” In traditional Chinese ethics, she has been educating women in accordance with Wangfu’s theory and has been trying to cultivate women into men’s sharpening stones. Shameless when unsuccessful