有位哲人说过,唯一能终止痛苦记忆的力量是宽容。宽容使你消除人为的紧张,不再沉湎于过去的碰撞,避免怨恨和消极情绪的产生,对自己的身心极有好处。 在一次人才交流会上,笔者听到这样一个故事:有位“文革”期间当过造反派头头的人,来到一家大企业应聘。在面试时,他意外地发现,负责面试的主管领导竟是当年被他押上批斗台的某处长,他的心一下子凉了半截:完啦。然而出乎意料,这位“老”处长面试时对他的 One philosopher has said that the only power that can end painful memory is tolerance. Tolerance allows you to eliminate artificial tension, no longer indulge in the collision of the past, to avoid resentment and negative emotions, on their own physical and psychological benefits. At a personnel exchange meeting, I heard such a story: someone who had been a leader of the rebel group during the “Cultural Revolution” came to work for a large enterprise. At the interview, he unexpectedly discovered that the supervisor in charge of the interview was actually a certain director who was arrested in that year and his heart was half-baked: finished. Surprisingly, however, the “old” director interviewed him