是父母拯救孩子,还是孩子拯救父母?光从物质上看,是前者,因为离开父母的照料,孩子一定不能生存。但从精神上看,后者可能更经常发生。敏锐的心理学家,或者敏感的父母都会知道,每一个生于不幸家庭的孩子,都试图做过拯救者,想拯救爸爸妈妈糟糕的关系,想拯救脆弱的悲观的爸爸妈妈, Is it the parents who save the children or the children who save the parents? Light is physically the former, because the children must not survive without their parents’ care. But mentally, the latter may happen more often. A keen psychologist or sensitive parents will know that every child born in a misfortune family has tried to be a savior, to save the bad relationship between father and mother, to save the fragile pessimistic father and mother,