老公和初恋情人联系上了,他们曾经关系非常好,还有过一个孩子,但被父母阻挠没有结成婚。面对这样两个人,我是不是更应该提高警惕?又怎么掌握这个度?本能反应当然要警惕,这种受到威胁的心情可以理解,但关键的是警惕有效果吗?我的答案基本是否定的。时刻保持警惕,会把自己弄得草木皆兵,搞不好还会失眠、形容憔悴。对老 Husband and first love lover contacted, they used to be very good, and had a child, but was blocked by their parents did not marry. Faced with such two people, I should not be more vigilant? How to grasp this degree? Of course, be alert to instinctive reactions, this threatened mood can be understood, but the key is vigilance effective? My answer is basically no of. Keep vigilant at all times, will make their own defensive, will not insomnia, described as gaunt. Old