最近,有朋友告诉我一件事,她期待参加某项活动的通知没收到,打听了一下,原来推荐方并没有报她的名字,她感到不爽。我问她是为自己落选不爽还是误会不爽,她回答为自己“以为”肯定被推荐结果却没被推荐不爽。由此,我想到人的一生中,有很多的误会是自找的。“以为”常常是自己一厢情愿地希望,带着“想当然”的成分。比如找熟人办事,以为人家会帮忙;公务中有好事,以为自己够格获取;有病有难通知亲友,以 Recently, a friend told me one thing, she expected to attend the notice of an event did not receive, inquire about the original recommendation did not report her name, she felt uncomfortable. I asked her if she was unlucky or misunderstood misconduct, she replied for their “thought ” is certainly not the recommended results recommended bad mood. As a result, I think a lot of misunderstandings are self-seeking in one’s life. “Thought ” is often wishful thinking, with “of course ” ingredients. For example, to find acquaintances work, that people will help; business in a good thing, that they qualify for access; sick have a hard time to inform their relatives and friends