常有家长问我,孩子成绩不好,且做事畏畏缩缩,我们做父母的真是恨铁不成钢,忍不住每天都要说说他(她)骂骂他(她),希望他(她)学业有所进步,做事更大胆主动。可不知怎么搞的,我们越说孩子成绩反而每况愈下,而且人显得越来越孤僻、自卑、不言不语,与家长隔阂加深,家庭笼罩着一片阴影。我们到底应该怎么办? Often parents ask me, the child’s grades are not good, and doing things dwindling shrinking, we really do not love parenting steel, could not help but say every day he (she) curse him (her), I hope he Academic progress, more daring initiative. But I do not know what to do. The more we say that children’s grades are getting worse and worse, and people seem more and more withdrawn, inferiority, silence, and parents’ estrangement, and the family is shrouded in shadows. What should we do?