【案例】小兰从外校转到新学校,很想和同学们搞好关系,经常主动帮大家做一些力所能及的事情。渐渐地,她的同学习以为常,觉得获得她的帮助是理所当然的,甚至经常对小兰颐指气使,指挥她做一些让别人看来很伤自尊的事情。有的人把削的水果皮放在桌子上,自己不管,却让小兰扔掉水果皮。小兰虽然心里很不情愿,但由于不愿意“拒绝”同学,也不知道如何去“拒绝”同学,只能违心地按照她们的要求去做。有的同学中午在食堂吃饭,吃完饭的饭盆都等着小兰清洗,有时她把大家的饭盆清洗完就要近二十多分钟……类似的事情还有很多。小兰有苦说不出,为此,她十分烦恼。 [Case] ​​Xiaolan transferred from the foreign school to the new school, would like to improve relations with the students, often take the initiative to help you do something within its power. Gradually, her classmates used to think that getting her help was a matter of course. She even used her to insinuate her and directed her to do something that made others appear self-esteeming. Some people cut the peel on the table, regardless of their own, leaving Xiaolan throwing peel. Xiaolan is very reluctant, but because she does not want to “refuse” her classmates, I do not know how to “refuse” my classmates and only can do it according to their demands. Some classmates eat at noon in the cafeteria, meal rice bowls are waiting for cleansing, and sometimes she would wash nearly everyone’s rice bowl nearly 20 minutes ... ... there are many similar things. Xiaolan bitter hard to say, for which she is very upset.