美国佛罗里达大学的一项研究表明,习惯于受表扬的学生较少有创造性,在挑战面前也容易败下阵来。他们的努力往往更多的是为了受表扬而不是为了满足学习的需要。相反受称赞较少的学生则能独立地学习,面临挑战也能顽强应战。他们习惯于逆水行舟。不适当的表扬会使孩子不能最大限度地认识到自己的全部能力。如果孩子因为平平常常地完成了一项任务而受到称赞,他就会以为做到这样就够不错的了。如果父母对孩子做的每件事都说“了不起”、“好极了”、“真惊人”,也就不存在什么真的出类拔萃了。 A study by the University of Florida shows that acclaimed students accustomed to less creative, easily defeated in front of the challenge. Their efforts are often more for compliment than for learning. On the contrary, the less praised students can learn independently and face tough challenges. They are used to moving against the water. Improper complimenting can make the child unable to realize the full capacity of oneself. If the child is praised for completing a task on an even, regular basis, he will think that doing so is good enough. If parents say “great”, “fantastic,” “amazing” to everything a child does, there is nothing really outstanding.