法国教育家福禄贝尔指出:“国民的命运,与其说操在掌权者手中,倒不如说掌握在母亲手中。”这充分说明了家长素质在家庭教育中的举足轻重的地位和作用。当前,我国家庭教育方式方法因受传统教育观念的影响,存在两种偏向:一种是家长丧失理智,过分宠爱的“溺爱型”教育方式,由此导致家长包办一切或放任孩子为所欲为;另一种是用家长的权力与权威对子女控制专权的“专制型”教育方式,并由此导致使用强制手段迫使子女依家长意愿行事,如有违反则 French educator Froebel pointed out: “The fate of the people is not so much in the hands of those in power as masters in the hands of mothers.” This fully demonstrates that the quality of parents in family education plays an important role and role. At present, there are two kinds of biases in the methods and methods of family education in our country due to the influence of traditional education. One is that the parents lose their rational and overly favored “spoiled” education methods, which leads parents to cover up everything or let their children do whatever they want. The other is to use “parental authority and authority” to control their children’s “autocratic” education, and this has led to the use of coercive measures to force their children to act according to the parents’ wishes. If there is any violation