“望子成龙”可谓天下做父母的共同心愿。但是许多家长对孩子的教育往往停留在“言传身教”的单一方式上。这本身并没有错,可问题是孩子是“这一个”。也就是说,每个孩子都是有差异的个性化的人。如果能发挥孩子自身能动性,让他们自己积极地投入去做某种事,效果肯定是“事半功倍”。钱钟书先生的女儿钱瑷说,小时候她在学习上遇到了困难,父亲并没有手把手依葫芦画样教她,而是推给她十几部词典,叫她自己查找,实在遍寻不得,父亲才给予指导。这造就了她极强的独立性和良好的自学习惯。钱瑷后来在英国进修期间,一开始读不懂导师指 “Succeed ” can be described as the common aspiration of parents in the world. However, many parents’ education of their children often stays in the single way of “preaching and teaching.” This is not wrong in itself, but the problem is that the child is “this one.” In other words, each child is a differentiated person. If you can play the child’s own initiative, so that they themselves actively engaged in doing something, the effect is certainly “more with less.” Qian’s daughter, Qian Qiao, said that when she was young, she encountered difficulties in learning. Her father did not teach her how to teach her. Instead, she drove her to dozens of dictionaries and asked her to find out what she could not find. My father gave guidance. This created her strong independence and good self-learning habits. Money 瑷 later in the UK during the study period, did not understand the beginning of the mentor