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人一生下来,便处于众人的包围之中,并开始与周围的人产生一定的联系。而在人生的旅途上,不论做什么,都要与他人打交道。如何处理好与这些人的关系?正确的方法,也就像一位少年所说的那样,要“做一个让自己高兴,也让别人高兴的人”。其实,这是一个十分棘手的重要的问题。我们与那位少年年龄相仿——16岁,一个刚开始步入社会的年龄。如何从一开始就解决上述问题,是一个十分关键的问题,如果处理好了,它会避免许多不愉快的事情发生。而一位老者的话说得更好:“把自己当成别人,把别人当成自己！”“把自己当成别人,把别人当成自己”,这就是说,要设身处地地为别人考虑,不要强人所难。而在现实社会中,许多人却没有做到,他们总是单一地从自己的视角去看问题,用自己的思想去揣摩别人的心理,从不倾听别人的意见,结果往往是事倍功半,伤了别人自己还不知道。相反,懂得这一点的人,往往容易成功。NBA著名组织后卫斯托克顿说过:“我总是细心地观察自己的队友,当了解了每个人的特点后,在比赛中,我尽量发挥他们的长处,而不强求他们做他们难以做到的事,结果比赛打起来十分流畅,每个人也都尽力发挥了自己的特
When people are born, they are surrounded by people and begin to have some connection with the people around them. And in the journey of life, no matter what, we must deal with others. How to deal with the relationship between these people? The correct way, as one teenager said, “to be a happy people, but also to others happy.” In fact, this is a very difficult and important issue. We are similar to that boy age - 16 years old, an age just beginning to enter society. How to solve the above problems from the beginning is a very crucial issue and if handled well, it will avoid many unpleasant things happening. And an old man said it better: “Think of oneself as others and treat others as oneself!” “Think of oneself as another and treat others as one’s own”, that is to say, place yourself in the position of considering others and not making one difficult. In the real world, many people fail to do so. They always look at the problems from their own perspectives. They use their own thoughts to try to understand other people’s psychology. They never listen to other people’s opinions. The result is often less effective and more hurtful Others do not know it yet. On the contrary, people who know this are often easy to succeed. NBA well-known point guard Stockton said: "I always carefully observe their teammates, when everyone knows the characteristics, in the game, I try to give full play to their strengths, but do not force them to do what they are difficult to do To the event, the results of the game played very smooth, everyone also tried their best to play