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美国儿科心理学家撰文提出教子十戒: 谬赞与挑剔父母为了鼓励子女,事无大小都大加赞赏,有时反而会弄巧成拙。心理治疗师詹姆斯·温德尔说:“惯于受父母称赞的孩子,做事往往不是为了让自己满意,而是为了博得别人赞赏。”这类孩子即使做日常家务也期望别人盛赞,没人赞赏似乎就难以把事情做好。过分挑剔也有害无益。温德尔说:“光是指责孩子怎样不对,也许只会导致孩子不断犯错。”赞赏和管教的比例应为3:1。比例过高,赞赏就显得虚伪夸大;比例太低,则显得挑剔过甚了。总之,称赞孩子要实事求是。一般来说。一句“谢谢”也够了。把孩子当小大人看待儿科教授施米特医生说:“孩子小时候管教
American pediatric psychologists author of the 10 precepts of the goddess: absurd praise and picky parents in order to encourage children, things are greatly appreciated the size, and sometimes will self-defeating. Psychotherapist James Wendell said: “Children accustomed to praising parents do things not often to satisfy themselves, but to win the praise of others.” Such children expect others to praise even their daily housework and nobody appreciates that it seems It’s hard to get things done. Too critical and detrimental. Wendell said: “just to blame the child how wrong, may only lead to children continue to make mistakes.” Appreciation and discipline should be 3: 1. Too high a proportion, applause appears to be false exaggeration; the proportion is too low, it is more critical. In short, praise children to seek truth from facts. In general. A “thank you” is enough. Treat your child as a young adult Professor Schmidt, a professor of pediatrics, said: "Children are disciplined