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在中国传统的家庭教育中,有一个十分独特而又有趣的现象,那就是“打椅子”。一个小孩子不小心被一把椅子碰倒,孩子的妈妈会很心疼地把孩子从地上扶起来,一边安抚孩子,一边打这个椅子给宝宝出气。显然,那把椅子没有错,母亲似乎也没有错,只是她在安慰儿子的时候,用错了教育的方法。儿子会从被椅子碰倒的疼痛中吸取教训吗?不会的,而且很可能还会在相同地方摔倒第二次。因为儿子看到有错的是椅子,而不是他。更重要的是,这样的教育方法还很容易培养儿子推脱责任,不能自我反省的惯性思维。
In China’s traditional family education, there is a very unique and interesting phenomenon, that is “chair ”. A child accidentally knocked down by a chair, the child’s mother will be very distracted child propped up from the ground, while appeasing children, while playing this chair to the baby out of gas. Obviously, there was nothing wrong with the chair, and the mother did not seem wrong, except that she used the wrong education when she comforted her son. Will my son learn from the pain of being knocked over by a chair? No, and probably will fall the same time in the same place for the second time. Because the son saw the wrong chair, not him. More importantly, this method of education is still very easy to cultivate his son shirk responsibility, can not self-reflection inertial thinking.