依靠他人或物质而不能自立或自给,通常被认作是“成瘾”。而外来的他人或物质,一旦引入人体并诱发一种心理生理的过程,就叫做“依赖”。依赖,不仅会使人丧失独立生活的能力和精神,还会使人缺乏生活的责任感,造成人格上的缺陷,只想过悠然自得,贪图享受,也就不能适应社会生活,甚至还会危害社会和他人,涉入违法犯罪。如何克服依赖弊端,是当今社会人们普遍关注的问题。宋代文人曾巩在 Rely on others or material and can not be self-reliance or self-sufficiency, is generally considered “addiction ”. And foreign to others or material, once introduced into the body and induce a psychophysiological process, called “dependent ”. Dependence will not only make people lose their ability and spirit of independent living, but also make people lack a sense of responsibility for life, resulting in personality defects, just think leisurely, enjoyment, it can not adapt to social life, and even endanger the community and Others, involved in criminal activities. How to overcome the disadvantages of dependence is a common concern in the society today. Song scholar Zong Gong in