心理学家说,凡人都爱听褒奖的话。这就决定了批评的话不容易为人接受。有的同志确实因为批评不得法而造成彼此间的情绪对立和人际矛盾,起了相反的效果。那么怎样解决批评难的问题呢?笔者想到了一个“教徒抽烟”的故事。故事说的是,有个教徒祈祷时想抽烟,问神父,祈祷时可以抽烟吗?神父厉色地说:“不可以!”另一教徒祈祷时也想抽烟,问神父,抽烟时可以祈祷吗?神父点头道:“可以!”这 Psychologists say that mortals love to hear testimonials. It is not easy for people to accept the critique. Some comrades did indeed have the opposite effect of creating emotional antagonism and interpersonal contradictions with each other because of criticism of the law. So how to solve the problem of critical criticism? I thought of a “believers smoking ” story. The story is that a believer prays to smoke, ask the priest, can you smoke while praying? The priest said harshly: “Not! ” Another prayers also want to smoke, ask the priest, you can pray while smoking ? Father nodded: “Can!” This