儿子10岁时,我们离开了北京回到家乡小县城。因为孩子没有北京户口,而且回到家乡我们的生活质量会更高。但转眼一年,儿子成绩是跟上来了,但原本开朗乐观的他却变得郁郁寡欢,没交一个朋友,对老师各种挑剔。要怎么做,才能让孩子接受并喜欢上这里?从心理学机制来讲,人之所以要去适应环境,是因为自身与环境之间出现了需求上的不平衡。为了消除这种不平衡,人就会去调整、去适应。对孩子而言,他体会到的最直接的需求不平衡就是学习 When his son was 10 years old, we left Beijing to return to his hometown of a small town. Because children do not have a Beijing account, and returned to their hometowns, the quality of our lives will be higher. But a year later, his son’s grade is to keep up, but he was optimistic optimistic but he became unhappy, did not pay a friend, all kinds of picky teachers. What to do in order to let children accept and love here? From a psychological mechanism, the reason why people want to adapt to the environment, because of their own and the environment there has been a demand imbalance. In order to eliminate this imbalance, people will adjust and adapt. For children, the most immediate imbalance of demand he experiences is learning