我们在日常生活中经常看到:越是家长和老师嘱咐叮咛不要做的事情,学生反而越是违反去做。从心理学上讲,我们称之为“幼儿性行为”。笔者曾参加过几次问题学生的研讨会,发现问题学生在中学阶段即出现吸烟、喝酒和打架的先例。甚至对于限制级的影像,学生私下里偷偷地观看者也是人数众多。而我们知道家长与学校对于这类现象是严厉禁止的。人总有这样的想法,越是得不到的心里会始终想着得到它。如果一件事情或者一个愿望会轻易地简单地实现,反而我们不会去做,欲求反而会消失。 We often see it in our daily life: the more parents and teachers have told us not to do, the more the students violate them. Psychologically speaking, we call it “toddler sex”. The author has participated in several seminars of students and found that students in the secondary school smoke smoking, drinking and fighting precedent. Even for restricted-size videos, students secretly see their audience in large numbers. And we know that parents and schools are strictly prohibited from such phenomena. People always have such an idea, the more you can not get the heart will always think of it. If one thing or one wish can be easily and simply realized, we will not do it, but the desire will disappear.