日常生活中,恰恰是那些鸡毛蒜皮的小事反映出来的“异源文化”差异,成为夫妻关系中最难逾越的一道心理鸿沟,妨碍着双方最终的接纳、亲近、融洽。眼下,在日趋增多的婚姻危机和家庭解体事件中,“感情不和”、“性格不合”、“缺少共同语言”、“性生活失谐”等等,经常成为当事者挂在嘴边的问题。然而,这些问题中潜在的“异源文化”冲突,不是被表面现象掩盖着,就是被当事者忽视了。其实,择偶成婚、建立与维系家庭,是人类文明社会中特有 In daily life, it is precisely those trivial matters reflected by the “heterocultural ” differences, as the most insurmountable psychological gap between husband and wife, hinder the ultimate acceptance, closeness and harmony between the two sides. Right now, in the growing number of marital crises and family disorganization events, “feelings of disharmony”, “disagreement”, “lack of common language”, “sexual misunderstanding”, etc. often become The matter of the parties hanging around. However, the potential “heterocultural” conflicts among these issues are not overshadowed by superficial phenomena or ignored by the parties concerned. In fact, spouse marriage, establishment and maintenance of the family, is unique in human civilizations