说话效果与感情亲疏密切相关。大凡感情亲密者的指令、劝慰往往可以立竿见影,而感情疏远者则相反。人与人的感情越亲密,信任程度越高,情感的感染性越强,教化作用也越大。颜氏家训中说:“夫同言而信,信其所亲。同命而行,行其所服。禁童子之暴虐,则师友之诚,不如师婢之指挥。止凡人斗阅,则尧舜之道,不如寡妻之诲喻。”这是说,同样的话,人们一般更相信关系密切,感情亲近的人所说的;同样的指令,人们首先听 Talking effect and affection are closely related. Complaints of intimacy, comfort often can be immediate, and emotional alienation is the opposite. The closer human feelings, the higher the degree of trust, the more contagious emotion, the greater the role of enlightenment. Yan’s family discipline said: “husband with the words and beliefs, believe their loved ones .Hold the same line, the line of service.Forbid the child’s tyranny, then the sincerity of teachers and friends, It is not as good as a widow’s metaphor. ”" This means that in the same vein, people generally believe more in close relationships and intimate relationships; the same instruction that people first listen to