大多数家长都毫不怀疑自己对子女有全面的了解。本来,长期在一起生活,充分了解子女,是符合逻辑的。然而要证明这一点也并不容易,实际上,我们的一个调查结果,几乎完全否定了上述见解。我们发现多数家长对子女的需要、心理体验和行为缺乏最基本的了解。我们用问卷的方法对一些有儿童的家庭进行了初步的调查。为了研究方便,设想了三种行为:①家庭行为(主要或常常在家庭环境中表现的);②学校或社会行为(主要或常常在学校或社会 Most parents have no doubt that they have a full understanding of their children. It is logical that we had long lived together and fully understood our children. However, to prove this is not easy. In fact, one of our findings almost completely negated the above viewpoints. We found that most parents lacked a basic understanding of their children’s needs, psychological experiences and behaviors. We conducted a preliminary survey of some families with children using a questionnaire. For the sake of convenience, three behaviors are envisaged: ① family behavior (mainly or often manifested in the home environment); ② school or social behavior (mainly or often in school or society