常有朋友开玩笑问我:“到目前为止,你只恋爱过一次,结婚过一次,怎么会在文章中有这么多的情感故事和这么成熟的婚恋观点?” 我也开玩笑似地回答他们:“你不觉得恰恰是因为我有这么强的感受生活故事的能力,才会有这么成熟的观点,所以才只需要谈一次恋爱结一次婚吗?” 有些经验的获得,需要付出极大的代价——甚至用我们一生也付不起。所以,实在不必非要通过亲身经历去获取。很多时候,多动动脑筋,多观察一下周围,多听一听别人的故事,我们便可以拥有取之不尽、用之不竭的经验去丰富和完整自己的人生。 多次听到有人以同情的口吻谈及一些大龄未婚的人、仿佛他们都是婚姻路上的失败者,但是 Often a friend jokingly asked me: “So far, you only love once, get married once, how there will be so many emotional stories in the article and so mature love and marriage point of view?” I jokingly replied: You do not think it is precisely because I have such a strong ability to feel the story of life, will have such a mature view, so just need to talk about a love marriage? "Some experience gained, need to pay a huge price - - I can not even afford it with my life. Therefore, it really does not have to be acquired through personal experience. In many cases, with more brains, more observation around and more listening to others’ stories, we can have inexhaustible experience to enrich and complete our own lives. Many times I hear someone talking sympathetically to some older and unmarried people as if they were all losers on the road to marriage,