问:我入伍一年了,常遇到不愉快的事。比如那次出公差,全班那么多人班长却偏偏派我去。我和班长吵起来。这时排长过来,说了我一顿。您说全班那么多人,我人小力单,为啥偏派我去,这说得过去吗?这样的事遇到的多去了。他们总与我过不去,是吗? 答:如果那次派去清理垃圾的是另外一个战友,如果他说:“全班那么多人,就我今天感冒了,为啥派我去?”或者再有一个战友说:“全班那么多人,就我一个是南方兵,所以才派我去吗?”如果都从自己的角度出发,每个人都可以找到理由不去打扫垃圾,那么作为你们班这个集体还有力量吗? 是什么使事情变得难办了,是什么使集体松散了,是什么引起了同志们的不和谐,那就是以自我为中心的思维方式。自我中心的思维方式说起来是一种非常幼稚的思维方式,可以说它最 Q: I joined the army for a year, often encounter unpleasant things. For example, that out of tolerance, the class so many people have chosen to send me to monitor. I quarrel with the squad leader. At this time platoon leader, said me a meal. You say so many people in the class, my little one single, why send me to go, this goes by the past? A: If there was another comrade in arms that was sent to clean up the rubbish, if he said, “So many people in my class are going to catch a cold today, why do I send me?” Or One comrade in arms said: “So many people in the whole class, as I am, are you a South Army, so did I send to me?” If all are from their own perspective, everyone can find reasons not to clean the rubbish, then as your class What power does this group have? What makes things difficult, what makes the group loose, and what arouses disharmony among the gays, that is, a self-centered way of thinking. Self-centered way of thinking is a very naive way of thinking, it can be said that the most