最近，我母亲的一个朋友去世了。一如以往经常发生的那样，我再次感受到了父亲的缺席是个多么大的缺憾。在丧失语言和记忆能力之前，他在关系到生死的问题上是个睿智的哲人。如果父亲能够的话，我相信他会这样说———她的朋友告别了这个世界，但并没有离开我们。我告诉母亲： Recently, a friend of my mother passed away. As often happens in the past, once again, I feel how absent is my father’s absence. Before losing his language and memory, he was a wise philosopher on issues of life and death. If my father was able, I believe he would say something --- her friend said goodbye to the world but did not leave us. I told my mother