？我是一名４０岁的机关干部，结婚十年来和妻子的性生活一直比较和谐。但我心里希望每次在性事前或性事中妻子能够主动一些。偶尔把这想法跟妻子讲了，却得不到认同与理解。为此，我很苦闷……！调查询问女人为何不采取主动的原因，多数妇女的回答是“女人就该如此，否则就是 ? I am a 40-year-old organ officer who has been in harmony with his wife’s sexual life for the past 10 years. But I hope my wife can take the initiative every time before or during sexual intercourse. Occasionally speaking this idea with his wife, but without recognition and understanding. To this end, I am very depressed ...! The survey asked women why they did not take the initiative, the majority of women’s answer is "a woman should do so otherwise