【说不出来的痛苦】在接下来两次咨询里,我和小丽的咨询重点自然转移到小丽和她妈妈的关系上。小丽是家里的大女儿,妈妈把很多心思放在照顾她和妹妹身上,小丽心里知道,妈妈是努力表现得很坚强,实际上非常脆弱。“我也不知道,我记得很小的时候,妈妈和我说过很多次,如果不是因为我和妹妹,她早就不会再活下去了。我知道我妈妈很控制我们,但她是希望我们好,我也不知道。”说到这里,小丽的眼圈又红了。有趣的是,小丽越能在咨询室里说出自己对妈妈这种复杂的感觉,她的“卡住的喉咙”感觉逐渐好起来。“好像有什么堵在这里的东西 [Can not tell the pain] In the next two counseling, I and Mary’s advice focus naturally transferred to Mary’s relationship with Mary. Mary is the eldest daughter in the family. Mom put a lot of thought in taking care of her and her sister. Mary knew she was very hard and actually very vulnerable. ”I do not know, when I was young, my mom and I said many times, if not for me and my sister, she would not have survived .I know my mother is very control over us, but she is I hope we are good, I do not know. “” Here, Mary’s eye is red again. Interestingly, the more Mary can say in the counselor’s room for her complex feelings about her mother, her “stuck throat ” feeling better and better. "It seems there is something blocked here