每个家长都希望自己的孩子能出人头地。因此,事事为孩子着想。然而由于方法欠妥,反而自觉不自觉地影响了孩子的成长,陷入了家庭教育的误区。一是希望孩子成为自己的翻版。做父母的常会期望孩子子承父业,而忘了孩子有自己独特的性格与气质。这些错误的期待往往妨碍了子女的自我发展。二是提供过多过细的帮助。比如孩子学习上的问题,一遇到困难就忙于帮助,或是每天检查孩子的功课、作业情况,对其他的事也是事无巨细,事必躬亲,使子女产生依赖心理,缺少独立的信心。三是过多地保护子女。这使得子女无法面对困难和挫折,缺乏心理承受能力。四是过度的称赞或是过度的批评。孩子需要父母的肯定,但是过度的赞赏会使孩子过高地估计自己的能力,少数孩子会因事事夸奖不把父母的话当回事。同样过多 Every parent wants their child to succeed. Therefore, everything for the sake of children. However, due to improper methods, but consciously or unconsciously affect the child’s growth, caught in the misunderstanding of family education. First, hope that children become their own copy. Parents often expect their children inherit their father’s inheritance, but forget that children have their own unique personality and temperament. These erroneous expectations often hinder their children’s self-development. The second is to provide too much help. Such as children learning problems, as soon as they encounter difficulties to help, or check the child’s homework every day, homework, everything else is dexterous, be sure to make their children dependent, lack of independent confidence. Third, excessive protection of children. This makes children unable to face the difficulties and setbacks, the lack of psychological capacity. Fourth, excessive praise or excessive criticism. Children need the affirmation of their parents, but over-appreciation can make children over-estimate their abilities, and a few children praise things without regard to their parents. Same too much