哀而不伤是一种境界,怨而不怒是一种境界。怨,《说文》注解是“恚也”。大概是比“怒”低半格,小一号,所以有“抱怨”、“哀怨”、“幽怨”等词组。不像“怒”,形诉于色,言诉于声,怒发冲冠,怒不可遏,怒目相向,等等,一点含蓄都没有了。 爱发怒的人容易办砸事,容易得罪人,也容易暴露自己。所以“制怒”变成了林则徐的座佑铭,“戒急用忍”成了蒋中正的保身术。《战国策》还把“怒”分为“天子之怒”和“布衣之怒”。布衣之怒,只能 Sorrow without injury is a realm, resentment without anger is a realm. Complaint, “Shuo Wen” annotation is “恚 also.” Probably less than “angry” half a box, a small one, so there are “complain”, “sad”, “Resentment” and other phrases. Unlike “anger”, the prosecution in color, voice in the complaint, angry, furious, angry, and so on, a little subtle no. Love angry people easy to hit things, easy to offend people, but also easy to expose themselves. Therefore, “system of anger” became Lin Zexu’s motto, and “no haste, be patient” became Chiang Kai-shek’s self-preservation technique. “Warring States policy” also “anger” is divided into “anger of the Son of Heaven” and “commoner’s Fury.” Common anger, only