我们常常听到父母们有这样的抱怨:“我们家孩子顽皮得要命!一点也不听话!”“是啊,不管我怎么教导,她就喜欢事事跟你对着干。”“现在那么小就不听话以后长大了该怎么办啊?”“宝宝是不是在‘变坏’呀,这可怎么办?”其实,父母的担心有点杞人忧天了。幼儿心理学家们研究证明,宝宝两岁以后,由于自我意识越来越强烈,对成人的要求和安排才会表现出越来越大的自主选择性,喜欢说“不”、“我就要……”等,这个时候无论你多么有权威,只要不对他的胃口,他就会反抗到底。所以宝宝的这些行为是正常的,并不是什么“变坏”的征兆。父母应首先认清这一点。对于宝宝的反抗行为和想法以一种尊重的态度来看待。如果父母们能够想到宝宝的反抗并非反叛,而是表达自我想法的一种方式时是否更容易接受孩子的想法呢? We often hear parents complain: “Our children are naughty and do not be obedient at all! ” “Yeah, no matter what I teach, she likes to do things with you.” “ Now how to do when I grow up after not being obedient? ”“ Is the baby getting worse? ”What can I do?“ Actually, my parents’ worries are rather unfounded. Research by young child psychologists shows that after two years of age, since the baby is getting more and more self-conscious, the demands and arrangements on adults will show more and more autonomy, like to say ”no“, ” I will ... “and so on, this time no matter how authoritative you are, as long as not his appetite, he will resist in the end. So your baby’s behavior is normal and not a sign of ”getting bad." Parents should first recognize this. Treat your baby’s resistance and thoughts with a respectful attitude. Would it be easier for parents to accept their children’s thoughts if they could think of the baby’s resistance not being rebellious but rather a way to express one’s own thoughts?