孩子有了一定的独立意识之后,免不了要与同伴发生争吵。除了个别孩子的强蛮无理,大多数孩子的争吵其实并非绝对的坏事,而是他们学习正确处理人际关系的某种“练习”。笔者邻居的几个孩子常来找我女儿玩耍,几个孩子凑在一起,不时会因一些游戏或其它问题争论甚至吵闹起来,但过后 Children have a certain sense of independence, inevitably have to quarrel with their peers. Apart from the brutality of individual children, most children’s quarrels are not the absolute bad thing, but rather they are some kind of “exercise” to learn how to deal with relationships properly. Several of my neighbors often came to my daughter to play, and several children got together and argued or even quarreled with games or other issues from time to time. However, afterwards