《红楼梦》第二十回 :“只篦了三五下儿 ,见晴雯忙忙走进来取钱 ,一见他两个 ,便冷笑道 :‘哦 !交杯盏儿还没吃 ,就上了头了 !’”吃交杯盏 (酒 )和上头是婚娶习俗 ,这是没有疑义的 ,然应是女方先上头 ,再到男家吃交杯酒 ,即举行合卺礼 ,为什么晴雯说颠倒了 ?其实 ,晴雯所云乃 “Dream of Red Mansions” twentieth back: “Grate only thirty-five next child, see Qingwen busy came in to withdraw money, saw him two, they sneered: ’Oh! ”It is no doubt that there should be no doubt that the woman should go to the top first and then to the male partner to have a cup of sake, In fact, Qingwen cloud is