日常人际交往,无论是说还是写,都有一个表达与理解的过程。说和写是表达,弄懂人家的意思自然是理解。一般的言语应对,彼此容易达成默契,如果要给人家讲一通道理,还想让人家接受自己的主张,那就不太容易。首先,需要挑好交谈对象。孔子就明白这一点,谆谆告诫我们:“可与言而不与言,失人;不可与言 Everyday interpersonal communication, whether speaking or writing, has a process of expression and understanding. Saying and writing is to express, understand the meaning of others naturally understand. The general verbal response, easy to reach a tacit understanding of each other, if you want to give people a reason, but also want people to accept their own ideas, it is not easy. First of all, you need to pick a good conversation. Confucius understands this, and he tells us: ”It is impossible to speak without words and to lose one’s life.