对于自卑者来说,最为缺乏的是一种内在的自我价值肯定。自卑是个体感受到自我价值被贬低或否定的内心体验。这种贬低或否定可能来自于当事人自己,也可能来自于外界的评价,但更多的是两者兼而有之。很多人总误以为要想克服自卑就应该提高自尊,可实际上,自卑的反义词并不是自尊而自信。自卑者往往有着超出常人几倍的自尊需求,只不过他们的自尊心缺乏一个稳定的内核和坚固的外壳,因此,一点点小事就可能使其受到巨大的伤害。对于自卑者,需要的是调整对自我的认识角度,更需要的是通过不断地发 For the self-control, what is lacking is an intrinsic affirmation of self-worth. Inferiority is the inner experience of individuals feeling self-worth degraded or denied. This demeaning or denial may come from the parties themselves, may also come from outside evaluation, but more of both. Many people always think that in order to overcome inferiority they should raise their self-esteem. Actually, the antonym of inferiority is not self-esteem and self-confidence. Inferior people tend to have self-esteem several times higher than ordinary people, but their lack of self-esteem with a stable core and a strong shell, so a little trifle can make it a huge harm. For the self-esteem, what is needed is a readjustment of the self’s understanding of the point of view, more need is through continuous hair