美国人类学家贝内迪克特曾潜心研究过日本文化,在有关著作中他特别提到了美国和日本家庭教育子女方式的差异。贝内迪克特说,在日本,父母对婴幼儿百依百顺,有求必应,视为掌上明珠。但是,随着孩子年龄的增长,家教越来越严格,直至结婚年龄的子女,个人自决权被限制到最低限度。这种状况在中年以后有所改善,进入老年便上升为一家之主,享有最高决策权。然而,美国式的家教却大相径庭。儿童在幼年时期即要受严格的家教管制,尤其是婴儿,作母亲 Benedictine, an American anthropologist who studied Japanese culture with great concentration, made special mention of differences in the way families educate their children in the United States and Japan. Benedikt said that in Japan, parents are obedient to infants and young children. However, as children grow older, tutorship is becoming more and more restrictive until the children of marriage are granted the right of individuals to self-determination to the minimum. After mid-age, this situation has improved, and as the elderly age, they have risen to be the head of the household, enjoying the highest decision-making power. However, American-style tutors are very different. Children are subject to strict tutorship at an early age, especially babies and mothers