三年前仲秋的一天,我们参加了一次让人难忘的家教研讨会,之所以难忘,是因为几位母亲的谈话曾引起我们的高度注意。一位中年妇女对身边一位稍年轻些的母亲说:“假如让你再生一胎,要不?”这位年轻母亲几乎不假思索就回答:“不要,打死也不要!”让人意外的是,年轻母亲刚说完,周围的几个人竟随声附和:“可不,现在的孩子太难带!”“心扒给他们,也感动不了他们!”这使我们十分震惊。早就听说过欧美、日本一些年轻夫妇不要孩子,被称为“丁克一族”,原因是想过自由自在的生活,不愿对生儿育女承担责任,而眼前这些母亲们不同。事后,我们采访了这些母亲,得知她们绝不是一些不负责任的人,她们都非常喜爱孩子,对抚养孩子也都十分尽责。她们之所以不想再要孩子,是孩子伤透了她们的心。那么,孩子到底怎么了? We attended an unforgettable tutoring seminar three years ago in the mid autumn festival and we are unforgettable because the talk of several mothers has drawn our attention. A middle-aged woman said to a younger mother around him: “If you give birth to a baby, will you?” The young mother said almost without hesitation: “No, do not kill!” Surprisingly Yes, when the young mother just finished saying, a few people around it actually echoed: “No, children are too hard to carry now!” “Heart grilled to them, can not move them!” This made us very shocked. It has long been said that Europe and the United States and some young Japanese couples who do not want children have been called the “Dink clan” because of their desire to live a free life and their unwillingness to take responsibility for their children, which are different now. Afterwards, we interviewed these mothers and learned that they are by no means irresponsible people. They both love children very much and are responsible for raising children as well. The reason why they do not want to have children again is that their children hurt their hearts. So, what happened to the child?