以前一遇到痛苦的事情,我往往会想方设法第一时间硬生生消灭掉让自己痛苦的因子,期望有人出面替自己摆平难题,甚至奢望痛苦从未出现过。越是想要急于摆脱痛苦的折磨,反而越是深陷其中难以走出,到最后,真正困扰自己的不是事情本身,而是自己的焦虑与急躁。随着经历的增多,我慢慢发现,比起急不可耐地摆脱痛苦,平静地与痛苦相处 In the past I encountered painful things, and I often find ways to eliminate the factors that make me feel painful for the first time. I expect some people to come forward to solve their own problems, and even hope that the pain never happened. The more you want to rush to get rid of the pain of torture, but the more it is difficult to get rid of them, in the end, the real trouble is not things themselves, but their own anxiety and impatience. As I experienced more and more, I slowly found that I was more anxious and relieved than painfully calm and painful