当学生要躲避某种困难,逃避某种活动时,常会用“我怎么怎么”这样的字眼来为自己辩解。比如,数学测验不及格,他会说:“我一直不喜欢数学”,“我天生笨头笨脑”等。这便是给自己下定义。一切自我贬低的定义都会阻碍学生自身的成长。 一、“自我定义”的形成过程。“我怎么怎么”是怎样开始的?来由可分成两类。第一类是由别人而来的。这里的“别人”主要指老师、家长或邻居。有一个女学生叫何丽,很喜欢画画,成天画这画那。有一天,爸爸说她画 When students want to avoid certain difficulties, to avoid certain activities, often use the words “how do I do” to defend myself. For example, a math test failed, he would say: “I have always disliked math,” “I am a dull stupid” and so on. This is to define ourselves. All self-deprecating definitions will hinder students' growth. First, the “self-definition” of the formation process. How do I start? How can I break into two categories? The first category is from others. Here, “others” mainly refers to teachers, parents or neighbors. There is a female student called He Li, like to draw, draw it all day painting it. One day, Dad said she painted