“这孩子真漂亮!”“您的孩子真聪明!…瞧这孩子多听话!”……当人们这样夸奖孩子时,很多父母把这视为客套而敷衍过去,没有把孩子当成独立的交往角色,因而忽视了这种“客套”和“敷衍”对孩子的影响。儿童非常希望了解别人对自己的评价并由此形成对自我的认识,但儿童在接受成人的评价信息时,很少能理解其真实含义,不能区分哪些是真实的评价,哪些只是客 “This kid is so beautiful!” “Your kid is so smart! ... Look how good the kid is!” ... When people praise their kid like this, many parents see it as polite and perfunctory and do not treat their child as an independent communicator , Thus ignoring the “polite” and “perfunctory” on the child’s impact. Children very much want to know others to their own evaluation and thus form a self-awareness, but when children accept the adult evaluation information, they rarely understand the true meaning, can not distinguish between what is a real evaluation, which is only off