礼者,理也。礼物送的得体,就是合理;送的不得体,就是失礼。以前的人认为孩子的生命是父母所赐,生活是爹娘所供,孩子的一切所需都来自爸妈,父母给孩子的还不够吗?既是自己人,送礼就显得生分而多余了。礼物,通常是送给外人的,因为外人没有血缘关系来维系,送送礼可以加强亲密感和尊重感。虽然说“礼轻情意 Ceremony, Li also. The gift is decent, it is reasonable; to send inappropriate, is rude. The former people think that children’s lives are given by their parents, their life is provided by their father and mother, and their children’s needs are all from their parents. Is not it enough for their parents to give birth to their children? Gifts are usually given to outsiders, because outsiders are not related by kinship, giving gifts can enhance intimacy and respect. Although said ”courtesy affection