劳伦斯的《儿子与情人》中,主人公保罗围绕三个女人经历了三种不同的爱恋:母子之恋、柏拉图纯精神之恋、纯肉体之恋。本文将围绕主人公保罗,以其主要感情经历为线索,运用符号矩阵理论,从灵肉结合与否的角度,详细阐释其从懵懂到一定程度上成熟的心路历程,辩证地解读作者的意图:即对灵肉合一的渴望,及建立和谐的两性关系及人与社会关系的努力。 Lawrence’s “Son and Lover”, the protagonist Paul around three women underwent three different love: mother-in-law, Plato pure spirit of love, pure love of the body. This article will focus on the protagonist Paul, with his main emotional experience as a clue, the use of symbolic matrix theory, from the perspective of spiritual meat or not, explain in detail from the ignorance to a certain extent mature mindset, dialectical interpretation of the author’s intention: The thirst for spiritual unity, the efforts to establish a harmonious relationship between the sexes and between man and society.