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父母在见到孩子屡犯错误而又屡教不改的时候,往往会很生气地说:“什么道理都向你讲过,你就是不听!”意思是做父母的已经尽到责任,孩子的一切错误都在于“不听话”。讲出道理都是为了让孩子听的,孩子不听,错误全在孩子吗?不。要孩子听家长的话(指听家长讲出的正确道理),并不是无条件的,这里头至少还有一个孩子为什么要听你的话的问题。单纯依据我是你爸爸,我是你妈妈,这种权威是很乏力的。家长向孩子讲述正确道理,提出正当要求,最大的权威是什么?不是道理的正确性本身,而是讲道理的人是否可信。有些父母,像演员那样,在“台下”(背着孩子的时候,或在孩子面前不以教育者身份出现的时候)是个很不怎么样的人,什么不光彩的事都做,
When parents see their children repeatedly make mistakes and they do not change their temper, they often say very angrily: “What truths have told you that you just do not listen!” Means that parents have fulfilled their duties and children’s All errors lie in “disobedient ”. To tell the truth is to let the children listen, the children do not listen, the mistakes are all children? It is not unconditional that children should listen to their parents (referring to the correct truths spoken by their parents) and there is at least one other reason why children should listen to you. Purely based on I am your father, I am your mother, this authority is very weak. Parents tell the children the right to make the right demands, what is the biggest authority? Is not the correctness of the truth itself, but the truth is credible. Some parents, like performers, are very poor people when they say “under the table” (when carrying their children or when they are not children as educators), what disgraceful things are done,