一“激励”的人际关系基础“激励”就是使人奋发有为,干劲十足。借助“激励”,失败后意气沮丧者能重新振作起来,成功者得到肯定和赞扬后则更加意气风发。激励的方式尽管形形色色,但它必须是自律的,建立在师生深刻的理解与深厚的信赖关系基础之上的,而菲他律的、违背教育性激励的本来宗旨的。当教师把学生仅仅视为施教的对象时,是不会有真正的相互理解与信赖的。因为这时教师想到的,仅仅是施教的内容,是如何使学生按照既定步骤去实现教学计划。在这种情形下,教师只要求学生沿着自己设计好的路线亦步亦趋,教师也必然动用赏罚手段,作严厉的叱责或夸大的表扬。这种行为逐步升级。将挑起学生的竞争心理,甚至产生敌忾之心与歧视意识。即令学生 An “incentive” basis for “interesting” in human relationships is to make people active and motivated. With “incentives,” those who are frustrated after failure can regain their enthusiasm, and those who are successful are more assertive after being recognized and praised. In spite of all kinds of incentives, it must be self-disciplined, based on the profound understanding of teachers and students and a deep relationship of trust, and on the basis of Philippine law and contrary to the original purpose of educational incentives. When teachers treat students as merely the object of teaching, there is no real mutual understanding and trust. Because what the teacher thinks at this time, only the content of teaching is how to make students follow the established steps to achieve the teaching plan. In this situation, teachers only require students to follow the routes they have designed. Teachers must also use rewards and penalties as a means of strict reproach or exaggeration. This behavior is escalating. It will provoke a student’s competitive psychology and even produce a sense of hostility and discrimination. Even students